When I was younger, teenager or a kid, I imagined that being an adult is the ultimate freedom, the highest level of life, a success itself. Lets face it, all kids want to be adults, they dress up in parents clothes, play adults, sometimes even speak like them. Children and teenagers think it’s awesome time, when you have everything figured out, good job, money, apartment or a house like from Pinterest, happy love life with no dramas, no broken hearts, a dog or a cat and travel journal full of photos and memories, because you travel once per month at least and to all those luxury places.
Surprise surprise! It’s all not true! And it hits you very hard when you realize that all your imaginations about adult life is simply trash. And here you are standing at the beginning, not knowing what to do, where to go. You have no job, or you work in a place you don’t like. You barely make it financially to the end of the month. You have no pets cause your rented apartment is too small or it’s simply not allowed. Relationships happen and then fall apart, or you’re forever single. And you don’t even have time to write in your travel journal, even though it’s best case scenario two holidays per year.
Totally different from your imagination, and the worst part is – no one prepares you for that. There is no subject at school that teaches how to be an adult. Parents or older friends won’t tell you either, all you hear from them is to enjoy the childhood/high school/studying while it last, because it’ll soon be over and you’ll want it back. If it’s any consolation, they say that because they still haven’t figure out how to survive successfully as an adult, they still have their issues not solved, they still have no idea what’s the secret of making it out alive. They only realize they haven’t enjoyed their younger times more.
And those who are already professional at being adult, and think they know it all and they feel like they rule and there are no problems that cannot be solved easily, having no crisis or breakdowns… hey smartasses, why don’t you write us an instruction book? We still don’t have any of this, right?
Truth is, there is no secret, no mystical power, no universal advice for adulthood. And you all, each one of you, is doing it good. Because we’re all in this, not knowing exactly what we’re doing, but going forward and seeing what our action bring us later. You may be 23 and happy in your corporate job, or 30 and still not really knowing what to do in your life. You could have a husband and children and dealing with it just great, or being single and pretending to like it but secretly wishing for someone to share your life. Or living non of those scenarios. It’s also fine. You could be anyone with any kind of life. Just keep going forward, step by step and you’ll figure it out. Adulthood is not easy but can be managed and can definitely give you happiness. You can be satisfied at work, happy at home with your lived ones and visiting a paradise on earth from time to time.
You can think that being an adult sucks, that you wanna quit. You can feel sometimes that you have no idea what you’re doing and how to deal with problems. We all have the right to feel overwhelmed. Because, as I said, it’s not that easy. But I assure you, it’s also not that bad.
And noone said you must go through adulthood with no failures. Of course you are going to make mistakes, of course there will be wrong decisions made. But it’s not like someone prepared you for all this, remember? So do what you’re doing, get up when you fall, and I believe you’ll do good. Eventually.
I believe in you. And I believe in myself.
Oh, and, you kids, teenagers, students, enjoy your time. You’ll remember my words 😉